People constantly complain that they don’t know why girls don’t like nice guys. They act as if they cannot comprehend it, cannot understand how any young lady could possibly want someone who isn’t sensitive and open and there for them and always has a kind word. (And yes, these guys definitely exist – I’ve dated them).
It’s SO SIMPLE though. Really ‘nice guys’ are too easy to hurt. You can see their faces crumble as you tell them it’s over, notice the dejected expressions when you pass by them in the hallway later. But they’ll never tell you. And it’s painful. I’m sure guys who are jerks have emotions as well, but you don’t have to witness them. Is that selfish? Very. Am I justifying being an asshole? No. But I think that’s most of the answer to the question. I don’t go out with nice guys, because I am bad at dating for extended periods of time, and honestly I would much rather get hurt than hurt someone.
However, I am 17. I’m sure all this is different as you get older. I really don’t know. But high school seems a very good place to observe these things.
And don’t take this too seriously. I know that not all guys are either total jerks or super sweet. I don’t want my boyfriend to be an absolute asshole. I like when boys are sweet. But when they’re really really sweet and nice…it’s difficult.
I needed to get that out. Carry on with your day